Allie

Allie

Monday, May 4, 2009

Dear Family & Friends

On April 7 Allie was in a car accident that changed our lives forever. It was a rainy day and an unfortunate accident in which no one was to blame. Allie was airlifted to Santa Clara Valley Medical. When we arrived (her Dad, brother Adam, Joey and I) shortly after she did, we were taken into a private room and given devastating news. Allie was unconscious. She had suffered a broken neck and was hemmoraging from a torn artery in her neck (one of the two brain stem arteries). They were not optimistic about her survival. We refused to believe it. Losing Allie was not an option! When we saw her for the first time she had been intubated, her face and neck were swollen from the internal bleeding. When we walked in and I said her name, she opened her eyes and looked at me.

Allie (and her doctor's) first challenge was the surgery to stop the bleeding in her neck. The doctor that did the procedure had only done one similar to this before and the damage to the artery was not nearly as bad as Allie's. The surgery was over 3 hours. Family and friends began praying. The artery was irreparable but he was able to bypass it by inserting tiny coils one by one to stop the bleeding. Staff here called the success of the surgery nothing less than heroic. The next surgery was to try and stabalize the broken bones in her neck. It turned out that she had broken the first three -- C1, C2 & C3. We were informed that it was the worst break that her surgeon had ever seen. Another agonizing 3-1/2 hours. Allie did better than expected. She has a halo vest to give her the best chance of mending.

Most of you know about the ups and downs Allie has had since she arrived here. Tomorrow will mark 4 weeks. She started in TICU was moved to RTC and back to SICU due to lung complications. Doctor's remained very guarded but knowing how many were praying for Allie we knew she would improve and surprise all. She is back in RTC (rehab trauma center). Her lungs are doing great. Today she was taken off antibiotics. She has physical therapy everyday, (just stretches of her legs and arms at this point), spends over an hour sitting up in a wheelchair and is getting therapy that will allow her to speak and swallow.

Allie remains on a ventilator. She cannot feel or move from her chin down. She is in a lot of pain and it seems impossible to make her comfortable. She communicates with blinks, and most of us have become pretty good at reading lips. She has her angry and sad times. But still finds it in herself to give smiles and say thank you. She does her swallow exercises with great determination. She asks her doctors a lot of questions and makes decisions about her care. She is very good at directing those around her and letting people know what she needs.

I will never be able to express my gratitude to our family and friends for the prayers and strength that have been directed to our Allie. I have no doubt it is what has made her recovery so amazing thus far.

Allie is so blessed to have such a wonderful group of friends. Thank you for your visits, prayers, pictures, dvds, cards, text messages, etc.

Thank you to all our friends who are praying, feeding us, taking care of our pets, etc.

Thank you to my sisters and brother who have showed up faithfully to give me an opportunity to sleep, eat or bathe.

Thank you to Katie MacCallister for creating this blog for us.

Ron and I are overwhelmed with the support and forever grateful!!!

Please continue to pray for Allie and Jerry. We believe that they will be in that small percentage that overcome their current disabilities. Right now we are praying that Allie will be able to breathe on her own.

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.

Love, Peace & Happiness,
Deborah

48 comments:

  1. May God bless your family and heal Allie. I pray that each new day brings new feeling and new movement. I pray God will relieve Allie's pain and make her stronger with every breath she takes. May God give you peace to sustain you through each day.

    I put a link to Allie's blog on Jerry's site, to call on all our prayer warriors to pray for our kids.

    Peace,
    Katie MacCallister

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  2. Hi Deborah-I was so glad to see your update. I've spent every day since the accident praying and worring about Allie and your family. Calling Samantha day and night for what information she might have. Allie has an incredible following of children, parents, coworkers and friends at Circle of Friends that love and adore her. We all miss her tremendously. The prayers and positive thoughts coming her way are immeasurable and hopefully will speed the healing. I've been lucky enough to see Allie's spunk, determination and strength during the last year and can't help to think that will play a huge part in her mending.

    Much love and peace,
    Stacey Botkin

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  3. Thinking of Allie and her family. May you continue to be surrounded by love and support.

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  4. We have been following Allie's progress, via the MacCallisters and various folks who know you. We keep you in our prayers, right next to the Macs. We pray for healing, painless moments and continued progress.

    Blessings.

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  5. We are thinking and praying for Allie. There are many friends and families in the valley that care and pray and think of you all.
    Lots of Love to you all.

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  6. I am praying for Allie that she would have peace and strength and that her pain will be less as she goes through today. Praying also for your whole family as you are there to support her.
    A Valley Mom

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  7. We are all praying for Allie and for all of you who surround her. As we pray for Jerry we pray for Allie, and we won't stop until both are fully recovered.

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  8. We have been praying for Allie's full recovery. She is a beautiful girl. I know how hard this has been for her and your family but our God is a good God and I know he is there for you. God bless you all.

    Jerry's Grandma Jan

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  9. Thank you so much for posting this site,we are thinking of you all constantly and praying for a miracle,patience and a rested mind and heart.
    Please give Allie a big hug from us and a giant tight hug to you Debra,you are amazing.
    Lots of love to you all,Gabi,Jim and Prisco

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  10. Count us as another of the many SLV families that have been and will continue to pray for Allie, her parents, and family.
    Thank you for this site, the community is pulling for you Allie.
    Another Valley Mom

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  11. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I don't know you, but I am a mom as well and a SV resident and I cannot imagine what you are going through. Your strength and determination will be a great help to your daughter in her recovery. Please know that there are many of us thinking of you and hoping for the very best for all of you.

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  12. we have been praying for jerry since january and have added allie to that list since katie first mentioned the accident on jerry's blog. the troops have been rallied and these kids will thrive!

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  13. Allie, you and your family are truly amazing. Your strenth and positivity is an insperation to all of us. We pray that you and your family find peace and that the recovery process will continue to move in a positive direction. You are a wonderful young women and we are all thinking of and praying for you and your family.

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  14. Allie is so beautiful and her strength is truly amazing and inspirational. Thank you for keeping us updated and sharing her progress through your website. Please know that that I will be praying for her and your family during this time!
    Kim Monack

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  15. Allie,
    You never leave my thoughts these days. I pray everyday that you will continue to recover without anymore complications. I smile every time I think about your "my way or the highway attitude" that often got you in trouble on the soccer field. I've seen you stand firm as a defender on the field, and refuse to leave even when you were hurt.
    I pray that you continue to have this attitude and determination. Love you girl.
    Megan Saunders

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  16. Allie, We are cheering you on here at the high school. I can't tell you how often you come to mind and we are continuing to cover you and your family in prayers and best thoughts for a speedy recovery. I have always loved your spirit and determination and tenacity. When you go after something, there is nothing that can stand in your way. So, keep fighting and believing. And know that you are much loved and you are an AMAZING Woman.
    Love and Hugs,
    Leslie

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  17. Deborah,
    I am Rachel (Allies roommate from Sonoma). I am in utter shock about what happened to Allie. Allie is the strongest person that I know and I'm sure that she will get through this. Please let her know that I love her and am thinking about her. Your whole family is in my thoughts and prayers. Please let me know if there is anything I can do. Am I allowed to visit her? I will drive up there in a heartbeat. Please let me know.

    Love,

    Rachel Marino

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  18. Please email or call me
    marinor467@yahoo.com
    858-335-8469

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  19. Thank you Katie Mac for building this web site for this beautiful "Valley Girl." I now have a face to put with my prayers.

    I too am a "Valley Mom."
    Just saying those words mean nothing to most unless of course you have raised your children here. We all feel like Allie could be one of our own, much like I feel about Jerry.
    Please know that you are not alone and that we all will be praying for complete healing for Allie and that God gives you the strength to keep fighting.
    Peace,
    Gretchen
    (aka:Gabe and Luke's mom)

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  20. Allie
    You are a beautiful, strong and determined woman and we are praying and sending positive thoughts to you and your family. You are already doing such incredible things in such a sort amount of time. You are amazing.

    Deborah
    Another strong and amazing lady. We love you guys very much and we are thinking of you always. Be well.

    Ron, Lisa, Christopher, and Tyler Greenly

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  21. Allie,
    You have not left my thoughts since I heard the devastating news. It didn't feel real at first; I didn't want to believe it. I want to see you so bad. To be honest, this blog is making me so very sad right now. I just want to drop everything and come up and be there for you. I can't beleive that you are going through all this. I am so sorry. I know that your family, all of our friends, and even people who do not know you are praying for you. We all care and love you so much. You are so strong and we all know that you will get through all this. I am so thankful to still have you in my life. You have been my friend for so long...So many memories and many more to come. All the prayers, positive thoughts, and your strength have helped you recover and will continue to help you progress each day. Everyone is hopeful that you will have a fast recovery. I will continue praying and thinking about you each and every day and am so grateful that I will be able to see my Allie in June. I love you.
    Love,
    Lindsey Deane

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  22. The Valley is praying for you Allie!
    Word is spreading thru internet connections, prayer chains, word of mouth. We want as many people praying for you & Jerry & your families. You valley kids are loved by our community - when tragic things happen - our hearts break - even if we don't know you.
    I signed yesterday my post as "Another Valley Mom" - & Gretchen, above, said it well -you could be one of our own.
    We are keeping you and your family in our prayers.
    Another Valley Mom.
    Sharon Ferry

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  23. We are so pleased to see this site up and running. Allie and your family are in our thoughts constantly. I hope the doctors will be able to alleviate her pain soon. Your positive attitudes and determination have gotten Allie through this crisis so far and will continue to do so. We love you. Craig and Nancy

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  24. Allie is in my prayers and so is your entire family. I pray for strength to get you all through the challenges ahead - and for her full recovery. Judging by your description of Allie - I have a really good feeling about her recovery. May God bless and surround you all.

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  25. I am constantly thinking and praying for you, Allie, Ron, and the family. I keep on thinking of how amazing of a friend Allie has been to me. Her and I became the best of friends so quickly, it breaks my heart that Im not able to spend everyday with her right now, i miss her so very much. Let her know Im working on a collage that i'll bring my next visit to the hospital. I'll be seeing you soon, and i'll always keep praying.

    Love Always,
    Haley

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  26. We've never met Allie before, but hearing about her accident has weighed heavily on our hearts. We will continue to pray for her strength & healing.

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  27. You never leave my thoughts, I love you and pray you to come home soon. I miss you terribly........

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  28. Allie and Family,
    I'm yet another valley mom who feels like you are one of our own. I am praying every day for your healing and that you will have the continued strength that you need to face your challenges right now. I don't know you, but I can see from your blog that you are a very determined young woman, and I know that will help you get well. Please know that many many prayers are supporting you every day.

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  29. Katie, thanks so much for starting this blogsite. I'm always checking Jerry's status and now can do the same with Allie. Deborah, Ron and the rest of Allie's family can now realize the support and love the valley can share. For Deborah and Ron, please share with Allie how much 'we' all love and support her and her recovery. Take care and stay strong.

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  30. Allie we are praying for you! Since, the day I met you at Circle of Friends I knew you were someone special! You have a spirit that will take you far.Remember no matter what you are amazing and that the road my seem long and hard you will conquer and come out a star. I want to "thank you" for all the love and back rubs that you gave our daughter Teagan it made her days easier in her transition to her new school. I always felt like if she needed a hug or some kidness you were there. We what to help you and give you our love. You made a difference in our lives and we will pray for you everyday to make your life better.God bless you sweetheart. May each day make you stronger!

    All our love The Neumann Family
    ~Connie Neumann

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  31. Allie, Deborah and Ron,

    Our prayers are with you all. We know that Allie has it within her to fight through this. We pray that the strength she demonstrated as an outstanding athlete will help her overcome the challenges that lay ahead. Our prayers will continue for her progress.

    With Love,
    Audrey, Dave, Liz and family

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  32. Dear Family and Allie,

    I am committed to sharing Allies story with my many connections around the Fly Fiishing world! We will keep adding to the chain of prayer and healing thoughts. "Go Allie", you can do it!! You and your family are wonderful teachers during this difficult time in your life! Kate Blubaugh

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  33. Allie, you are an inspiration of strength and hope. Along with so many others, I continue to pray for your recovery.

    -Deana Doyle

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  34. Dear Deborah, Ron, Allie and Family,

    Allie has been in my prayers and on my heart since day one. I too am committed to sharing Allie's story with all I come in contact with. Know that you are surrounded by countless individuals that are lifting your struggles up in prayer. I have heard so many wonderful stories about Allie over the last four weeks---please let Allie know that she is truly loved by many! Laureen Yungmeyer

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  35. I have a niece who shares your name - now when I talk to her, I will be thinking of you too. We will pray for you - God will give you the strength you need. I send love and support to your family, especially your mom.
    A Nevada mother

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  36. Dear Allie, Deborah, Ron, Adam, Angel and Alonzo,

    We think about you all everyday. Our prayers are with you. Allie we are keeping you close in our heart's pocket,and pray that each day becomes easier, and that you continue to have strength and faith that God is with you.

    Allie, please remember that you are never alone. You have a community of people who are "Ralling for Allie", and that we will never stop caring.

    Take good care,and remember you are so loved by so many.

    Big hugs to you!

    Cindy, Mitch Briana and, of course, Megan

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  37. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and think of you. You are always in my heart. I remember dancing at BRT with Angel, I always thought you were the CUTEST lil' thing I had ever seen. Sometimes I would just watch you, you were maybe 5 or 6?? You are now surrounded by angels, love and blessings.

    Best,
    Erin Pavlina

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  38. Allie,
    We don't know you but we continue to pray for you and Jerry every night in our prayers.

    Yet another Valley Mom...

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  39. I don't know u but i am praying for you and will continue. I believe God will bring you healing... Nothing is impossible with him... u have a lot of people that love and care for you! get well and make a full recovery! you are a beautiful girl!

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  40. Allie you are a strong willed person no matter what situation you are put in. I know with your positive attitude you will overcome anything! i pray for you and your family and i hope u make a full recovery. ull be back to dancing and lip sinking in no time!

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  41. Allie
    You and your family are in my thoughts day and night. Stay strong and positive like I know you can. You are such a strong willed woman, I know you will overcome. Brianna and I would love to come visit.
    Lots of love,
    Kerry and Brianna

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  42. May God and his band of angels surround you each and every minute to meet your every healing need. God bless you and your family and you will all be in my prayers. Visualize your body as healed and stay strong and know you are loved.

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  43. I, like a few others, have never met Allie, but I do go to school with Adam and I know him a bit. He's an amazing young man and I'm sure Allie's just as amazing(I've heard great things about her). I hadn't said a good sincere prayer in years, but when I first read this blog I knew if there were ever a thing to pray for, it was this. I sat for a good 30-45 minutes praying that the Lord would give her a speedy recovery and take away her pain, because I know she doesn't deserve it. I wish I had met her before this unfortunate incident

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  44. Allie and Family,

    I just found out about your website. I am thankful for a site to hear about your progress, (You have made so much!). I am also thankful for a place to donate to help. I am a neighbor and another Valley Mom praying for you.

    Margaret

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  45. Allie and Deborah, Ron, Anjel, Adam, and Alonso,

    I think of you all so often and send healing wishes and prayers for Allie's continued recovery. I am so glad she's been cleared for swallowing...liquid from a straw, coming soon! A step at a time, and every step counts. What a joy it must have been for her to be outside.

    Allie, Caitlin still remembers when you were 11 and babysat for her at the Seabright house in Santa Cruz and she sends you healing wishes. Deborah, I send hugs and love to you from Oregon (and wish I were closer to help in some way), and much gratitude to your new company that you are still on payroll and your family has insurance. I hold all of you in my thoughts and prayers.
    love,
    Pam

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  46. When I visit I am amazed at the patience and love that encompasses Allie and her family. Watching Deborah give Allie every bit of love, patience and energy that she possesses makes me realize that there are Angels on Earth! Deborah you are truly Allie's God Given Guardian Angel on Earth!
    Allie is blessed with the most beautiful and giving Mother God is able to create. You have a beautiful way of sharing of yourself in your writings, the pain, suffering, anguish, trials, relief and joy that you experience daily are beyond belief. Yet, you just keep going! Know that you and your family are in my heart, my prayers and my thoughts. With My Love Always!

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  47. allie
    we were never the best of friends but i pray for you and knw you are the strongest girl i have ever met

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